I needed customers to NOT go through to purchasing product and wanted zero stock on all product so configured the Notify Me button to show for that situation.
Already discovered heaps of other people are simply NOT BEING NOTIFIED (so why the 'Notify Me" to begin with!).
Anyway - added Display: none to my template css
.productdetails-view .addtocart-bar {
display: none;
margin: 15px 0 0;
padding: 0 0 0 38px;
}
That got rid of the Notify Me button.
Next...
Make sure the 'Ask a Question' button is configured.
Changed the text on the Ask a Question button (language/en.GB/en-GB.com_virtuemart.ini, but there are 2 to pick from here) (Do a search to find the phrase) to "Click here to enquire about this product"
Email form comes up for client to submit
Changed text (same file as above) in heading of that message box from "Ask a Question" to my required text, and voila!
Admin can now receive an email enquiring about a product.
This works better for me than having to search the backend for a stray notification message on a product you can't find anyway that someone 'might have sent'!!
So much for Notifying Me - but I'm happy - found my workaround.
This may help others?